Have you bought a present for someone and the person didn’t say thank you or did you save someone from a bad situation and the person didn’t show appreciation or even after being there for someone, they got back on their feet and fought you? Are you wondering why? You are not alone in this. So many people think their fellow human beings are ungrateful and do not appreciate anything therefore want to stop doing good to others and as a matter of fact, some have actually stopped doing good.
What then is gratitude? it is the quality of being thankful; readiness to show appreciation for and to return kindness. When people become grateful for small pleasures, their outlook changes and opportunities seem to open up everywhere in their lives so why will someone live exactly the opposite? The truth is, it’s very frustrating and discouraging when people are unappreciative of the things you do for them but there are some reasons for this attitude, don’t forget gratitude is an attitude. The following reasons will help you understand why people are ungrateful and unappreciative:
BACKGROUND: first of all, the environment where people were born, how they were brought up and the kind of friends they keep have great impact on their behaviour. There are people who naturally don’t know how to say thank you or show appreciation for kind gestures because they weren’t taught that manner growing and dealing with these type of people can be very frustrating most especially in a relationship because you will end up thinking you are not doing anything right. Kindly put it at the back of your mind that not everyone is like you, there are people out there that even if you offer your heart to save them through a transplant, they will still not show appreciation.
JEALOUSY: there are people who envy your position in life and wish they were in your shoes therefore they don’t care whether you are doing the good to them or to others, they will never show appreciation. Some go to extend of telling you that they never asked you for that favour or didn’t ask you to come through for them, they are simply ungrateful because they hate you being the “hero” all the time so instead of being thankful, they ignore you to make you rather feel you did something wrong.
OVER EXCITEMENT: sometimes it is not an intention of a person to be ungrateful but the over excitement of the kind gesture that makes them forget to show gratitude especially when its a life saving situation. This can happen to anyone at any point in time but when the person settles down or is prompted, they quickly apologise and show gratitude afterwards.
DISSATISFACTION: the lack of satisfaction when it comes to kind gestures lead to ungratefulness. When someone is unhappy or disappointed or dissatisfied with a kind gesture ,there is no way the person is going to show gratitude, personally i won’t. For instance, a student is in need of tuition fee and you buy him the most expensive shoes, you will not be appreciated for this kind gesture because the shoes are expensive yes but it didn’t satisfy him. This can actually frustrate this student especially when he knows he can’t sell the shoes to raise money to pay for his tuition.
OPPORTUNISM: there are people who are opportunistic, they exploit opportunities including people and take advantage regardless of the consequences, rules or ethical dilemma surrounding the situation. These type of people are always on a lookout for ways they can exploit the people around them to take advantage of their kindness and when they get what they want, they are done with you. These people are mostly ungrateful beings, they don’t care what you think about them as far as they get their needs satisfied.
With these few reasons elaborated above, you now understand why someone will not show appreciation but that should not deter you from being kind to others. Kindness makes you the most beautiful person in the world no matter how you look like.
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